Recently my ten year old has been having a harder time at school than usual. Being ten years old now Brooklin has literally grown up through my writings on this blog. She’s not such a baby anymore and I’m finding that as my girls get older motherhood becomes more and more heartbreaking. I wanted to share these words with the boy who calls my daughter fat at school.
To The Boy Who Calls My Daughter Fat,
I’m sorry for all of the kind words you should have received. All the encouragement that went unacknowledged. I am sorry that you have failed to see the qualities that truly make you great. Someone in our life might have failed you on more than one occasion and I hope you find some peace with whatever you might struggle with.
My daughter is struggling right now too. See your words have hurt her deeply, and those are scars she might live with for many years to come. I wish you that you were the first and last one to hurt her but you might only be the first.
My wish for you is that you take the time to see all the great things about those around you. Maybe it’s how silly and funny they are, you know when you’re my age you will wish you would have laughed more. I wish that you would ask yourself is fat really the worst thing a person could be?
Well what about “jealous”, “selfish”, “vindictive”, “angry”, “boring” “deceitful”, “vain”. Aren’t there a lot worse things to be? This is what I remind my daughter when you call her fat so I ask you the same question.
When there are so many things you can be in this world I am asking you who do you truly want to be? I will never have a son but I am a mom to three daughters and I ask them who they want to be?
You know what Brooklin has said? That she is strong, smart, compassionate, environmentally aware, honest, and loyal.
So I’ll leave you with the words I always leave my own children……
Be kind always.