My first never did this, she would hold your hand, listen to instructions, fits were few and far between. I happened to actually capture a fit with my camera yesterday at the zoo. They’ve become a regular occurrence while out in public.
My husband wanted her to put her sweater on, and to hold his hand if she were to be walking. Sure no problem. Except she wanted it her way.No sweater that’s okay but still hold the hand. There was a sense that a fit was only moments away. And it was…well kind of.
A moment later she was mid way into throwing herself on the ground when…walah. My husband picked her up mid fall.
She got up and well. Put the sweater on and he let her have some independence.
I’ve come to learn that my children are not alike. They weren’t from the moment of their birth and they will never be. I’ve come to be able to sense a fit, and yet somehow together we’re working our way through them. Finding easy solutions and compromises that work for us. I believe that as a family we are continuing to navigate our way through having a family of four.
I have learned that toddlers don’t have perfect behavior and not to overwhelm myself when Brooklin’s isn’t perfect.
It does get easier, I see that now.